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#GO WITH THE FLOW MOVIE#
#GO WITH THE FLOW SERIES#

Just keep practicing, and you’ll get the hang of it. So when you first learn to go with the flow, you will mess up. Who is good when they are first learning to write, or read, or drive? No one I know. It’s important to realize that, just like when you learn any skill, you probably won’t be good at this at first. So why get upset about it? Just let it go, and soon it won’t be a big deal. A week from now, a year from now, this little incident won’t matter a single whit. Then whatever happened doesn’t seem so important. I start to zoom away, until I’m pretty far away from things.

#GO WITH THE FLOW MOVIE#

You know how you’re watching a movie and the camera zooms away and you can see much more of the world on the screen than you could before? How it goes from closeup to a larger, panoramic view of things? That’s what happens in my mind’s eye. I get angry over something happening - my car breaks down, my kids ruin my microwave - and then I take a deep breath, and take a step back. Practice this by itself and you’ll have come a long way already. This is an important step that allows you to calm down and do the rest of the things on this list. When you feel yourself getting angry or frustrated, take a deep breath. And soon, because of that little act, you will become more aware of your anger and frustration. It helps to keep tally marks in a little notebook for a week - every time you get upset, put a little tally. Be aware that you’re becoming upset, so that you can do something about it. You have to become an observer of your thoughts, a self-examiner.

You can’t change things in your head if you’re not aware of them. I’ve mentioned this step in previous articles on other topics, but that’s because it’s extremely important. There are things that we cannot control that will affect every aspect of our lives, and we must must must accept that, or we will constantly be frustrated. First step is realizing that these things will happen.

that disrupts things, etc.) that will make you break your routine. In the example above, you can control your morning routine, but there will be things that happen from time to time (someone’s sick, accident happens, phone call comes at 5 a.m. You can’t even control everything within your own little sphere of influence - you can influence things, but many things are simply out of your control. All the wishful thinking won’t make it so. We don’t control the universe, and yet we seem to wish we could. I think we all know this at some level, but the way we think and act and feel many times contradicts this basic truth.

Realize that you can’t control everything.

As always, I don’t have any claims to perfection, and I’m learning as I improve, but the tips below should help anyone. This is the ultimate.” – Chuang TzuĪ reader recently asked me to write more about going with the flow, so this is my attempt to share some of the things that work for me. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. “Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. It’s taking what life gives you, rather than trying to mold life to be exactly as you want it to be. It’s accepting change without getting angry or frustrated. What is going with the flow? It’s rolling with the punches. Not the best way to handle things, is it? And yet if we are honest, most of us have problems like this, with things that disrupt how we like things, with people who change what we are used to, with life when it doesn’t go the way we want it to go. It ruins your day because you are frustrated for the rest of the day. You are stressed from all these changes to what you’re used to. You are disappointed, because you didn’t get to do your morning routine. And then a water pipe bursts in your bathroom and you spend a stressful morning trying to clean up the mess and get the pipe fixed. You’ve structured your mornings so that you do things that bring you calm and happiness. “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” – Thich Nhat Hanhįor example, let’s say you’ve created the perfect peaceful morning routine. The simple solution: learn to go with the flow. No matter how much structure we create in our lives, no matter how many good habits we build, there will always be things that we cannot control - and if we let them, these things can be a huge source of anger, frustration and stress. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao-Tzu By Leo Babauta Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow.

#GO WITH THE FLOW SERIES#

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.